“This is not the end, this is not the beginning, just a voice like a riot rockin’ every revision…”  Linkin Park

There is change in the energy we are living, I can feel it.  I see evidence of it in my life and in the lives of those around me, especially regarding relationships.  Recently I’ve had many friends, clients and colleagues confide that they are struggling, separating or divorcing.  While the ensuing pain and confusion feels very frightening and hopeless for those enduring it, from the outside I can also see hope and the intention to grow and move forward in our lives.

Sometimes we know we want change, but are too afraid to choose it.  We know we want something better, yet feel paralyzed to find it.   A mentor of mine once told me that when we decide, even on a subconscious level that we do indeed want something more and better out of life, God and the universe will provide us every opportunity to have just that.  If we don’t take that first chance all is never lost, for opportunities will continue to arise that push us, gently at first, toward the change we desire.

Eventually though, the pushing gets harder, more obvious.  And for some of us, despite all our deepest wishing and secret wanting, we still don’t move.  We don’t take advantage of opportunities placed before us.  We continually repeat the same old choices that created the disatisfyling life of our past.  And this pushing continues until finally things get painful.  A husband cheats.  A wife walks out.  And finally we’re ready to move, becuase we feel like we’re going to die.

But inspired by the words of Linkin Park, I hope to offer encouragment that these things, they are not the end.  As badly as you may be hurting, as frightened as you are, think of this not as an end, or even a beginning, but a revision.  I doubt things were perfect before.  Odds are you’ve probably been unhappy, dissatisfied, searching or struggling for some time now.   How possible is it that something within you wanted this revision of your life and has wanted to grow and move from this stagant place that has trapped you?

I do not believe in victims.  If you find yourself in this situation, I have to believe that it’s because deep down inside, you want more. I don’t know what more looks like for you – maybe it’s saving your current relationship or maybe it’s letting go and moving on, but in either case you’ve wanted more.  And you deserve to have it.

This is not an end.  The process may not be what you would have chosen and it may be far more painful than you imagined you could endure, but you will continue on.  You will rise again to laugh and to love.  This is still your life to create.  What will your revision look like?

If you are suffering right now, it is not my intention to minimize your pain.  I only hope to offer you another point of view, one that lends hope when it feels like hope has gone.  There is so much love for you in this world, and I extend my own to you in this way.

As always, it is my goal to uplift, inspire and help others heal their lives.  Thank you for allowing me to be part of this with you. – Kim